pets

    Gigi is a happy mess.

    A 3 lb Maltese dog sits between some pillows. She’s staring at the camera, fuzzy white fur, big black eyes and a pink tongue hanging out the side of her closed mouth.

    If the cupboard door is open, Jort will sense it and come running from across the house so she can climb in among the towels.

    A brown striped kitty is poking her head out of a cupboard door. There’s a stack of colored towels behind her. It was straight and tidy until a couple of minutes ago.

    Mleh.

    A Maltese dog caught mid-lick. She’s sitting on a couch and seems to be licking the air. Her pink tongue is as long as her head.

    Keeva became ill in the last week. I took her to the vet expecting she’d need some medicine and TLC. Instead we got some very bad news.

    Our sweet girl – verifiably the best pup ever – is going to sleep tomorrow. She’ll be surrounded by a heartbroken family who loves her very much and will help her rest as comfortably as possible.

    Goodbye, sweetie. I’ll miss you forever.

    The sweetest Boston terrier ever is laying on a rug on a sunny porch.

    I have a shoulder dog.

    A tiny white Maltese dog is nestled between my neck and shoulder.

    I told Keeva a funny joke.

    A Boston terrier is panting in the warmth and looks as though she’s laughing. (She just came inside and has plenty of fresh, cool, clean water in a bowl nearby.)

    A sleepy Keeva caught a patch of sun.

    The world’s sweetest and gentlest Boston terrier is sitting droopily in a sunny bit of carpet.

    Gigi got a haircut.

    A tiny white Maltese is curled up on a fuzzy warm bed. Her hair is very short with pink skin showing through. You can see a glimpse of her tongue hanging out the side of her mouth.

    The cats are making an 80s alt rock album cover.

    2 cats are sitting on a bedroom floor, facing away from the camera. One is looking back over his shoulder.

    I set my pillows on the floor to make the bed. Keeva had burrowed in by the time I got back around to that side. I didn’t have the heart to move her. Within moments she was snoring away.

    A Boston terrier is burrowed in between several large, colorful pillows.The same Boston terrier is curled up and sleeping in the same spot.

    How I’m working right now. I couldn’t move if I had to.

    A Boston terrier is sleeping on the floor, pressed against my sandaled foot.

    Gigi turns 15 today. We’re celebrating with lots of cuddles and ancient dog appropriate treats.

    A tiny white Maltese with bedhead and a little grin

    Keeva wants pets.

    A Boston terrier with the sweetest little face is smiling up at the camera. She’s standing on a wood floor half in, half out of the sun streaming in through a door.

    Kitty likes her SureFood microchip pet feeder

    We have 2 cats. One of them1 requires a prescription food. Predictably, because he’s a cat, he hates his food and wants to eat the other cat’s. Any other time, the second cat wouldn’t let the first anywhere near her food. Because she’s a cat and enjoys tormenting us, now she’s happy to share her forbidden kibble.

    I’d heard about pet feeders that use RFID tags to distinguish between animals and only open for the one (or ones) that you’ve programmed into them. After some research, we took a deep breath and decided to try Sure Petcare’s SureFeed (affiliate link). I wish we’d done it sooner.

    The initial setup was a cinch. I pressed the “add pet” button, lured our kitty to the feeder with a treat, and watched a blinking light turn solid green as the feeder detected and learned the RFID microchip her vet had implanted. It came with an RFID tag we could have clipped onto her collar if needed, but we didn’t.

    Next, we used its “training mode” to get her used to the feeder. On the first day, the lid stayed fully open so it acted like a normal food bowl. Over the next few days, the lid closed a little farther and moved a little more to teach the kitty that it wasn’t going to eat her. At the end of that process, the SureFeed behaved exactly as it promised. Now our healthy kitty walks up to her food bowl, its cover opens without spooking her, and she eats her dinner. Our medicated cat bats at it in frustration because he can see the tempting food inside but can’t get at it.

    The SureFeed is expensive, and I only bought it because I had some gift cards saved up. $200 is one expensive cat food bowl. Still, in our case, it’s much cheaper than having our cat eat the wrong food. It’s also one of our household items that lives up to all its claims. It lets the right cat in and keeps the wrong one out. I’m glad we got it.


    1. I nicknamed him Steve Austin, as in the Six Million Dollar Man. It’s always something with this guy. ↩︎

    Winding down

    I knew the conversation wouldn’t be easy when the veterinarian asked if this was a good time to talk.

    I still think of her as a puppy, even though she hasn’t been one for many years. People are surprised to find that this tiny little dog is a full-grown adult. Although she’s shaped like a miniature version of the real thing, it’s hard to wrap your brain around something that small being anything other than a baby.

    The years don’t care about her appearance, or that she sometimes sleeps on my pillow next to my head, or that I remember how frisky she use to be. Even little bits wear out and start to fail. As her vet translated the numbers from the lab results into things I could understand, I began to realize what they meant: my wife and I will have to make difficult decisions soon.

    It’s hard to know what’s best for her, and harder yet to separate that from what’s easiest for us. Those aren’t at all the same things. If I could throw the finite resources available to us at the problem and put it off forever, I would. But that’s not how time works. We can delay things, but only for so long. And the delay has its costs. The analytical part of my brain imagines that she has a fixed amount of happiness left. Do we let her spend it all and then lay down for a last nap, or do we spread it over years (or maybe just months, who can tell) of uncomfortable treatments and procedures? I don’t know. And not deciding is the same as deciding: time won’t give us the luxury of pausing until we can choose what’s right.

    My heart knows that this is tougher because of how much we love her. If these sorts of decisions were easy, that would be sad in a different way. Many years ago, we came to care so much about our little puppy that it made the inevitable so painful, but I wouldn’t change that even if I could. And until then, I’m going to make her remaining time as happy as I can.